As a natural defense mechanism, we as humans generally tend to want to stay away from things that we do not understand. Did you know that we would actually prefer something we didn't like over something we do not understand???
This is a built in defense mechanism by our subconscious mind that helps humanity classify and keep things in order by defining his world. This mechanism is used in our everyday lives without us even noticing it, and some have become more reliant on this natural inclination than others have. The biggest enemy to a human being is that of the unknown...anything we cannot define, control, manipulate, destroy, or predict. Sounds pretty harsh but think about all the things you liked naturally and all the things you had to understand before you liked it. You naturally liked the things you could identify with or understand the most, things that you could control or predict. Think about when you shop. Do you buy the most efficient product that you never heard of before or the mediocre product that you use regularly when all you have to do is read the back labels to distinguish the two? Think about when your friendships. Do you go out most often with the friend who is nicer to you but doesn't look, act, talk, or think like you or do you go out with the friend who treats you badly but who looks like you, acts like you, talks like you, and thinks like you?
The natural defense mechanism we have that makes us dislike what we do not understand is the reason behind culture clashes, religious wars, territorial wars, segregation, poverty and world hunger, hate crimes, and so many other negative things that destroy us and destroy our world. This is why we have to understand the people we don't get along with because our natural defense mechanism has sometimes causes us to not like someone who we do not understand, making it hard for us to get along with that person and this is unfair.
In order to refute the mechanism that causes us to dislike what we do not understand we should find out why we do not understand something...what makes this thing so foreign to us? Doing this will help us to see the problem and then address it accordingly. We must do the same with people. You may not understand someone because of the way they act. Well find out why they act this way! Do your research before judging the person or just accepting that you don't get along with them. Many refuse to take the time to do this type of research and so they have all of the same friends with the same personalities, and the same experiences in life.
Once you find out what makes you unable to understand and individual or a certain thing EDUCATE YOURSELF on this particular thing! If its a person who acts differently than you, educate yourself on these type of people. If its a person who thinks differently than you then educate yourself on people who think this way. What you must realize is that educate is the key to understanding the world around you, not the key to the world around you understanding you. Remember that you are one person in over 6 billion individuals. It is in your best interest to become educated rather than not get along with certain people or not do well with certain things.
Do you notice that you feel happier now? It is because your natural defense mechanism that dislikes things you don't understand has been refuted and you are able to understand, which helps you relate to and become happy with many people and things you once disliked, which in turn makes you happier with the world around you. A person who is happy with the world around him is happy with himself. Being happy with your world does not mean nothing goes wrong in it. It means that you are willing to do your research and educate yourself on things you do not understand about your world and this helps you to identify and make the necessary connections you needed to make between you and your world. This is why understanding others can make you happy!
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